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Thursday, April 05, 2012

Is There No Limit to What Can Be Called Sex?

As a designer and writer, I have been working online now for over 10 years and I am constantly amazed about the perceptions that appear to be changing how we relate to each other sexually.

Just like the saying: "As above, so below" is used to describe the trickle-down management theory, the same holds true for "As offline, so online" because of Internet technology, we are now able to have a bird's eye view of how people have evolved on all levels, particularly in how they relate to sexuality.

I have had discussions with men and women about their thoughts on sexuality. Coming from a male perspective, I'm just born curious about how my sister views the state of relations between men and women. Surprisingly, more than a few people are shocked at some of the things people do to get their sexual kicks. On top on that, several people actually believe that these activities are a new happening.

As a student of sexuality, I must confess that I am stunning at learning this is what the common mindset is. Unfortunately, it's not true: what we are seeing online has been going on for a very long time. The Internet is not to blame, nor is our modern, industrialized society totally without fault.

The biggest factor in where our relationships stand today and will be tomorrow is the perspective on sexuality. It is this one point that can be sourced as the root of the tree of peoples around the world.

For the people in a culture that holds sexuality as the vessel of Divine Creation, this would be their starting point of discovery.

On the other hand, for a people in a culture that holds sexuality is Divine Destruction, here is where they would begin.

These are the dynamics that are shaping us as a society. However, even for the people who hold to the principle that it is better not to have sexual relations, injuring a person in the course of sex activity is not approved.

We are not talking about a little slap on the ass; whipping a person until they bleed is the activity in question. Is this sex or is this violence?

From every perspective I can find, sexual relations are all about pleasure. Asking a woman who is a dominatrix about this activity, her response was:

"On top of the medical issues it brings, there are more than enough legal reasons why the level of physical violence that you speak of is taboo, even for the S/M crowd."

And the legal system plays a major role in our society's mindset about sexuality. The term "Sex offenders" has created an official sub-culture and lifestyle.

Unless you have been living on another planet, these laws affect you both consciously and sub-consciously. Quite a few individuals connect violence to sexual pleasure for one reason or another and those that do not agree still have to come to terms with their existence.

The Denial Factor is in high gear, but that approach doesn't result in progress. Adults may have a clear understanding about the consequences of confusing physical violence with sexual activity, but the next generations are still learning what sexuality is all about.

As a webmaster I hear arguments from individuals who want nothing that deals with sexuality on the Internet. If that's the case, we might as well pull the plug and put up the 'Closed' sign on the Web, because everything in Creation has a relationship with sexuality in one sense or another.

It's personally painful for me to see the reality of a person allowing themselves to be physically abused. I only understand this mindset to a minimum degree and I am thankful for that.

What do you think?


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